In the journey towards changing our mindsets, we may encounter some roadblocks that can prevent our forward progression. One such block is perfectionism.
Perfectionism says that we can not accept anything less than perfect from ourselves and sometimes from others. This is problematic because it does not allow room for growth and change.
We must learn to embrace change and give ourselves the grace to endure the ebbs and flows that come with change. Perfectionism has its origins in trauma.
Often, those considered to be perfectionists faced ridicule or criticism or were held to unreasonably high standards in their developmental years. Perfectionism should not be confused with excellence. Excellence means achieving at high levels but is not absolute and leaves room for error and correction. You can achieve excellence without the burden of perfection.
How do we release perfectionism?
- Be patient with ourselves as we learn and experience various changes in life
- Be kind to ourselves when we make mistakes or are not automatically the best at something
- Accept the fact that growth and change are processes that have highs and lows and that these highs and lows are necessary for us to become our best selves
- Make the learning/evolving the goal instead of perfection.
Remember that growth and change are a part of the process and should be embraced.